Queer

Queer beauty rituals — from cutting your hair, to doing your makeup, to having a solid skin-care routine — can be a healing ritual and a powerful expression of identity. Queer is an example of a word undergoing this process. For decades queer was used as a derogatory adjective for gays and lesbians, but in the 1980s the term began to be used by gay and lesbian activists as a term of self-identification. Eventually, it came to be used as an umbrella term that included gay men, lesbians, bisexuals, and ... Queer (adj.): transgressive, revolutionary, anti-assimilation, challenging of the status quo Many people claim the label queer as a badge of honor that has a radical, political edge. UU seminarian Elizabeth Nguyen has preached: “Queer, for many folks, is about resistance—resisting dominant culture’s ideas of ‘normal,’ rejoicing in ... Queer definition, strange or odd from a conventional viewpoint; unusually different; singular: a queer notion of justice. See more. “Queer” challenges the assumed binary of sexual and gender identity. Many use the term as being synonymous with “gay”, but to me, that misses its meaning. “Queer” is about non-normativity, creativity, and diversity far beyond homonormative culture. queer: Originally pejorative for gay, now being reclaimed by some gay men, lesbians, bisexuals and transgendered persons as a self-affirming umbrella term. Caution: still extremely offensive when used as an epithet. Queer encourages respect of the fluidity of sexuality and gender, allows room for evolution and growth, and acknowledges that attraction — both romantic and sexual — exists both in and outside ... Queer is an umbrella term, it really implies “not straight” more than it implies what exactly someone’s sexuality might be. It’s also a political term and many people use it as such, to imply a particular set of political beliefs alongside their orientation. Queer does not resonate with all communities and is not embraced by all LGBTQ ... An Emerging Canon. Classic queer young adult novels are something of a more recent phenomenon. Though there are many novels with characters historically interpreted as queer, panic and pearl-clutching about introducing children to gay thoughts has meant we’ve had a slow start to building a queer YA classics canon. Queer definition is - differing in some way from what is usual or normal : odd, strange, weird. How to use queer in a sentence. Usage of queer

Things of interest to the LGBT community.

2009.02.26 00:37 rebel Things of interest to the LGBT community.

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2017.08.01 21:50 FentyOdyC Queer Women Of Color

Want a place to talk about your day with queer women who share similar cultural backgrounds? Maybe you have a few questions and need some advice. On Queer Women Of Color you can post and discuss anything from politics to celebrity news.
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2009.06.30 09:40 ulfada Because two options aren't enough for everyone

For folks who don't fit the gender binary or are interested in questioning it. Please feel free to join us and discuss!
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2020.09.22 14:58 Eistra_ Why do I keep dreaming about having a girlfriend?

This is my first time posting on this app, but I am curious on a matter. I'm a female and I keep dreaming about having a girlfriend or something very similar. For some more information, I'm Queer. During these dreams I will see people that don't exist or do, one of the first dreams was of two girls a friend of mine had introduced to me, as well as my best friend(F). In this dream I was very clingy with all of these and cuddling with them. And from what I remember I was dating my best friend. The latest dream is of my recent ex girlfriend (broke up in February), and people I didn't know at all. I was choosing who to marry and I wanted to pick my ex and not all of the other girls. I have no desire to be with my ex as well as my best friend. Also I'm fine being single and have been wanting more time to myself to relax over the next few months. Does anyone know why I'm having so many of these dreams (those I mentioned were only a few).
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2020.09.22 14:40 largeheartedboy Classic Queer Books You Might Have Missed

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2020.09.22 14:37 MxMercy Come join us The Queer Lounge and Peer Support!

This server is only open to those who do not identify as being cisgender, who are questioning their gender or for those who are in a relationship with a non-cisgender person. This place is for those who are seeking peer support and/or mentorship from their peers in the community. This is a peer support group and a place where those who are further in their transition journeys can help mentor those who have not yet started, just starting out, or in their early transition period. This group is also a peer support group to those who have a romantic relationship with those of us who do not identify as cisgender.
Please keep in mind that this is not a clinically based server and is a peer support group run by fellow volunteering peers with experience in the community.
This is an adults only server for folx who are 18+ The main purpose of this group is to provide a safe place where like minded individuals can come together to help support one another and build a sense of community.
This is a brand new group just starting to build a supportive community. I hope to see you there! ❤️
DM me for the direct invite! :)
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2020.09.22 14:31 bill_bullock Just being stupid

Before marriage equality-after a son came out as gay, a daughter as bi and another child as queer
Friend: “I went to dinner with my nephew and his partner.” Me: “What kind, law, business? Friend: “Life.”
I’m just that stupid
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2020.09.22 14:21 ChaunceyMyshkin New Queer POTUS discussion

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2020.09.22 14:19 MxMercy Come join us at the queer lounge peer support!

This server is only open to those who do not identify as being cisgender, who are questioning their gender or for those who are in a relationship with a non-cisgender person. This place is for those who are seeking peer support and/or mentorship from their peers in the community. This is a peer support group and a place where those who are further in their transition journeys can help mentor those who have not yet started, just starting out, or in their early transition period. This group is also a peer support group to those who have a romantic relationship with those of us who do not identify as cisgender.
Please keep in mind that this is not a clinically based server and is a peer support group run by fellow volunteering peers with experience in the community.
This is an adults only server for folx who are 18+ The main purpose of this group is to provide a safe place where like minded individuals can come together to help support one another and build a sense of community.
This is a newer group of 200 people and we have a chat dedicated to those who are 30 or older and we just starting to build a supportive community. I hope to see you there! ❤️
https://discord.gg/FGemt9F
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2020.09.22 14:09 MxMercy Come join us The Queer Lounge and Peer Support!

Come join us The Queer Lounge and Peer Support!
This server is only open to those who do not identify as being cisgender, who are questioning their gender or for those who are in a relationship with a non-cisgender person. This place is for those who are seeking peer support and/or mentorship from their peers in the community. This is a peer support group and a place where those who are further in their transition journeys can help mentor those who have not yet started, just starting out, or in their early transition period. This group is also a peer support group to those who have a romantic relationship with those of us who do not identify as cisgender.
Please keep in mind that this is not a clinically based server and is a peer support group run by fellow volunteering peers with experience in the community.
This is an adults only server for folx who are 18+ The main purpose of this group is to provide a safe place where like minded individuals can come together to help support one another and build a sense of community.
This is a brand new group just starting to build a supportive community. I hope to see you there! ❤️
https://discord.gg/FGemt9F
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2020.09.22 13:46 ShawniLewis You know what I want

I want a story, or comic about a lesbian superhero, who's like, super femme, with her wonderful, supportive butch/stud gf/wife who doesn't know how to fight at all and just...cuddles with the superhero after a long day.
I've read stories with queer superheros who've had partners or love interests before, but it always seems like it's kind of enforcing the narrative of femme = civilian/love interest and butch/stud = superhero. If anybody has any suggestions that would be awesome but if not, imma just write my own I guess lol
edit: fixed misspellings
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2020.09.22 13:33 tryinanotherusername A Local Queer Non Profit Organization

Hi everyone! Do you know any queer non profit organization (based in Toronto or Canada) that offers merchandise? The organization might be about queer mental health but if not, any organization related to LGBTQ community works!
I’ve done some research but even the 519 doesn’t carry any merchandise :(
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2020.09.22 13:19 gay_gay_abrams Found this flag when I googled queer flag. Does anybody know if this is legitimate or at least if its bad or not. Like does it have a bad history or mean something else in a bad way.

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2020.09.22 12:51 Gerd-Neek Had an argument with my brother about the LGBT+ community and now I’m the bad guy.

(This is a vent as I’m crying. I can’t promise it’s coherent, just hurt filled I guess).
Idk if this is a story, technically it is idk. It just happened and I feel like shit.
My brother came into the lounge where my mom and I were hanging out and came and sat down and said he got into another debate/disagreement on the Internet because he saw someone make the vomit emoji in response to a Korra and Asami ship post or whatever. At first this made me think he was actually standing up for the LGBT+s cause of how he phrased it... but no. (Quick note, he often -once a fortnight maybe- will talk about disagreeing with the queer community) He then goes on to say someone replied to the emoji say something all the lines of “your LGBT hate doesn’t belong here” and then HE replied to THAT person saying that they’re being aggressive and “it’s just an opinion, they’re entitled to have whatever opinion they want as long as it’s not physically harming someone.” This then got into a heated debate where he always FEIGNS trying to be understanding but is actually just pretending to be the bigger person when in reality he won’t let up his homophobic views. And then he SAYS he’s not homophobic, because “he doesn’t outwardly hate on them, he just doesn’t agree with it and people should be able to say that.”
I told him “imagine being told every day that something you have NO control over is WRONG and that you will NEVER be able to change that aspect of you but people will forever tell you that you are going to HELL for it. OF COURSE people are going to have knee jerk defensive reactions to it, because they don’t want to KEEP getting hurt.” (My mom agrees with me on this, bringing up trauma being a similar thing. Important later)
It escalated to the point of him pretending to be the good guy by making an analogy to rebuttal something I said that’s pretty much “well if you say that then THIS has to be ok” the kind of comment that you’re OBVIOUSLY not talking about that but they bring it up to throw you off, cutting their nose to spit their face sort of thing.
After that I was on the verge of tears but this HURTS me and he’s like “what? Now you’re silent? I’m just trying to understand you. So does that mean I’m right? I want you to correct me so I can be better (but he shuts me down whenever I correct him).” And then I responded saying “You never will.” And then he went ape shit talking about how I’m his BLOOD, his SISTER and that he is ASHAMED of me for saying that and “I’m actually shaking, look what you did.” And when I trying to speak he just went “NO! I can’t BELIEVE you. I can’t believe you would SAY that to me. After all I’ve done to try and be better and you tell me I can’t!?”
And then he’s in tears and angry and he slams his door and then my mom gets annoyed at me for what I said but then I tell her that after him constantly bringing up how the LGBT community is WRONG and after how much hate I see everywhere (and then the hate I’ve received about just being ace despite being able to be straight passing - but I didn’t directly bring that up because though I’m out I’m not out out I guess) that THAT is just my KNEE JERK REACTION because it HURTS SO MUCH. The point SHE AGREED ON BEFORE. And then she goes on to say “yes but”
And I KNOW I shouldn’t have said “you never will” but I NEVER got to explain what I meant by that because he wouldn’t let me explain myself and wanted me to just shut up every time I did. BUT EVEN IF I DID JUST MEAN IT AT FACE VALUE, HOW IS THAT WRONG WHEN HE IS THE ONE WHO IS SET IN HIS WAYS FOR THE LGBT COMMUNITY BEING BAD AND REFUSES TO CHANGE HIS VIEW, I’M JUST REINFORCING WHAT HE SAYS.
I feel like SHIT and I hate it. I live in a religious household. We’re not staunch or conservative, and I do believe, but I don’t know if I can continue this religion if these is the people I’m with in it. But if I left the religion I know something wouldn’t feel right... but Idk if that’s because it’s been something from my whole life or because I do believe.
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2020.09.22 12:44 jruprez0406 Question

What is the difference between fictosexual and fictoqueer? Or just queer in general? Its really confusing me.
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2020.09.22 12:34 golfwangover Might be turning my fanfiction into a TV adaptation soon!

One of my favorite Black queer models tweeted about wanting to do a lead role in a lesbian TV series and I offered to write the book adaptation for it. She's down to work with me and is interested to see what concepts I can create.
As a Black African author myself - itd be really refreshing to have accurate representation of the Black Lesbian experience on a network like HBO or maybe an A24 project one day!
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2020.09.22 12:33 GayumbahrahNoorun Please leave me alone

We were together for 3 years and you broke up with me via Instagram DM 10 minutes after school finished, a week after valentine’s day? And you thought it was okay to break up with me by saying “I don’t love you anymore”? What the fuck? So much for wanting to marry me (which would have never happened because i never pictured me being married to you)
I should have left you years ago, you didn’t care for me or respect my culture. You’d defend your racist friends by telling me it was ‘just a joke’ and take advice from them instead of me about my own culture- you were meant to come to that ceremony with me but didn’t because your friend told you not to. My family made you uncomfortable because you didn’t like their skin tone or humour, but then again you don’t have a sense of humour.
You’re awful at sex, you’d never make any noise or put any effort in while it happened. I tried introducing you to more erotic experiences by asking you what you liked and you’d always ask for anal, knowing fully well I have haemorrhoids. Now you talk about about bondage and being dominant with my ex best friend like you’ve done that stuff before- why are you lying? Also it’s awful of you to talk to her about having a sexual relationship when you know fully well you don’t like her.
It’s been 6 months since we’ve broken up, you’re starting to talk to me again because you aren’t able to date the girls you want to date but it’s too late. I’ve got a new boyfriend and he’s everything I wanted.
He’s a queer Indigenous person, just like me, and he’s twice the man you could ever even dream of being. He wants to be apart of my life, he wants to be around my family and he’s proud to show me off to people as his girlfriend. And l’m equally proud to be seen on his arm.
It’s going great and I can us having a family together in the future. I can see us being married to each other in the eyes of our cultures and ancestors. But most importantly-
I’m happy.
please leave me alone.
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2020.09.22 12:28 chesterlola2014 How do I signal to other women that I'm queer?

Like is there a uniform I need to buy?? How old is too old to cut that slit in your eyebrow? 30 year old shy femme in need of assistance!
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2020.09.22 11:39 832416 Bay Area guys, what is your experience living there?

I live in Texas and I took a trip to the Bay Area back in 2018 and really loved it out there. Taking a trip and living are two different things. I could see myself living there in the future. I'm curious to hear firsthand accounts of your experiences living in the Bay Area. So some questions!
  1. What part of the Bay Area are you in? SF, Oakland, San Jose? How is the gay scene in your respected area?
  2. How is dating there like with a larger pool of gay/queer men?
  3. What are your personal pros and cons of living there?
  4. Since it's 2020, how has COVID changed the BA?
  5. Any bonus info you might deem helpful would be appreciated!
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2020.09.22 11:05 emotionalfaerie Would anybody be interested in joining a book club for young adult LBGTQ+ people?

Would anyone be interested in a book club for young adult queer people? I’m thinking an age range of 18-30. I really want to join a book club but I don’t fit the demographic for any I can find (many are women only, I found a queer one that’s for ppl in their 20s and 30s but I’m 18 and hoping to meet other young people). I thought I could consider starting my own! For the time being it would be over Zoom of course. Let me know your thoughts and please let me know if there’s any interest! :)
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2020.09.22 10:00 LyfeSuck Nearly half of gay men are voting for Trump

https://www.newsweek.com/though-most-lgbtqs-vote-democratic-new-poll-shows-45-queer-men-backing-trump-1531867?amp=1&fbclid=IwAR3OoTTHpfSbmrm2wN0mpNUlcJMxZ-hDP4oDL_ElEfIM76dk1_cl5gsHwAQ&__twitter_impression=true
While this sub seems to be filled to the brim with female-worshipping simps and self-hating soyboys, the general gay population is split down the middle.
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2020.09.22 09:50 eatyourcrown Still thinking about it (long post)

My partner and I have been together for 7 years. We're both in our late 20s. I thought she was the most perfect person for me. I've had pretty crappy relationships with people before her but when I met her we instantly clicked and things definitely moved too fast but we didn't mind. A few years into the relationship we decided to open it up so we could introduce a third. It's something we both wanted and we're both bi. We talked to people on dating apps but it never went anywhere. Somewhere around this time she told me that she was trans (mtf) and I was supportive and helped her find resources to start hrt. I honestly thought our relationship was good and I was excited at the process of adding a third into the relationship. I didn't think there was anything wrong at all.
One day I'm scrolling through her blog and find out that she had been doing phone/text/sexting stuff with an 18 year old girl (this was about 2-3 years ago and my gf was at least 25) and I was hurt that she didn't tell me this was happening because the whole open relationship rules were to tell each other who we talk and if anything starts and she hadn't. A few days after I found out she ends up telling me that it happened. I end up telling her that I'm hurt she didn't tell me sooner and she tells me that she wasn't really happy with our relationship, doesn't enjoy having sex with me that much anymore because I made her feel too much like a man, and she wanted to experience other people (specifically other transwomen). We talk it out, there's a lot of crying but we decide to make things work. I think things are better after that. At least a little. To be honest, I ended up getting weird when she would bring up the 18 year old and how she was into hewanted to date her but never wanted to talk that out because it hurt.
A year passes and one day I notice that she's really into texting someone. Like not listening when I speak distracted. I don't think about it too much but later that day we're in bed and cuddling watching some movie when I glance at her while she's on her phone and see that she's been sexting with someone. Probably all day. I tell her that I'm tired or something and go home instead. The next day I confront her about what I saw. She apologizes, says she feels bad, and I don't even remember what else but we end up talking it out and keep trying at the relationship. We do love each other and want to keep each other in our lives.
Not too long after that she ends up sick, like chronically ill and her whole life is changing because it's not something easily cured or fixed sick. I don't feel like we ever resolved the issue though but I was focused on supporting her through her illness and never brought it up again. Part of me wonders if her illness is what's keeping us together at this point because I'm constantly wondering if there's anyone else. I feel weird everytime I see her spending so much time on the phone when wer're hanging out and she's texting a lot. I'm not even sure if I should bring it up again and I feel like I just need to move on over what happened.
I think our relationship is good now and she tells me how grateful she is that I'm still in her life. I feel like she appreciates me more since she got sick, like she realized how committed to her I actually am and how I don't want to leave her but it makes me wonder if the rest of our relationship was a lie and she was hoping to find someone better than me. I keep wondering if she's still hoping to find someone better. She had made a comment about how she wouldn't have felt hurt if she found out that I had been doing what she had done (if the roles were reversed).
I feel like I'm not good enough for her and that I'm not queer enough for her (that's a whole other issue), and that maybe she would be better off with another transwoman instead of me. It feels like so much time has passed since she did those things but I think about it on an almost daily basis and I just don't know what to do about it. I don't want to throw this relationship away. I love her so much and want a future with her but these stupid thoughts just keep filling my head. I just don't know what to do and how to get past this. I don't know if I can. I always used to say that if a partner cheated on me, I would just leave. I've never tolerated cheating. I just feel so stupid for not noticing how she was feeling and making her feel unloved in the relationship. I thought I was a good girlfriend who was supportive and loving and I'm just questioning who I am too.
I have a lot of feelings that I'm not explaining well and I'm not even sure what I expect from posting here. It's part rant, part advice seeking I guess. I just wish none of it ever happened.
Edit: I didn't mention it before but our sex life is basically non existent since the first incident. Before her transition it was because she felt dysphoric having sex with me (when she told me she just didn't enjoy sex with me/I can't enjoy penetrative sex now without wanting to cry because I think about this a lot after that). After her transition started, the hormones made it hard to have sex which I was okay with. I started feeling weird with sex anyway. After the second incident and her illness, she was on so much medication and just felt so bad in general so I never even initiated anything anymore. Which lasted into recent times. We finally started having sex (like maybe a handful of times this year) but I feel weird about it because the last few times have been in the past month or so after I started mentioning that I was kind of interested in starting masculinzing hormones which turned her on I guess. Talking about the changes I would go through made her kinda frisky and now I'm not even sure if I wanna start that because it's got ne thinking about how she wants someone that's not me
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2020.09.22 08:59 sess92ca Queer Theory Jeopardy

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2020.09.22 07:47 punkjames509 I work overnights and need to open door an assistant manager.

For the past five months I have been dealing with an a manager who on his nights does everything possible to mess with me. the last two nights of my week end up being spent deep zoning grocery despite letting the manager know it sets off numerous physical injuries and health issues I have. Things with me and him were set off originally when he found out I was queer but up until now I have let it slide.
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2020.09.22 07:44 sonicstormdrummer 16m [M4T] looking for love [relationship]

hey there Im a queer guy Living in a highly conservative area with No fellow LGBTQ+ people and that gets quite lonely so i would love to chat with anyone who is trans, gay or gender non conforming I have many hobbies and interests such as gaming, fitness, history, computers, and reading I pride myself on being both an open book so ill tell you anything and good listener and you can tell me anything I can talk about anything ranging from politics to gaming dm me if you want to talk
non binary also welcome cos you folks are valid too :)
16 and older only pls
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